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How best can I get back at a cheating partner? (Hiphop Taught M)
How do you
get back at them for the emotional anguish and bitter disappointment
caused by their lying tongues and inability to stay faithful, committed
and exclusive to you as they promised to be?
We’ve
heard stories of women who go on cheating campaigns of their own as
response to their philandering boyfriends and husbands.
Some
slash tyres, smash windscreens, rear screens and dent every possible
part of the men's cars. There’s also the one about a certain lady who
burnt a foot of all the pairs of shoes her cheating boyfriend had.
“Girls Trip” actress, Tiffany Haddish also
shared during her recent interview on the "Breakfast Club" that in
order to get back at guy who played her, she pooped in his favourite
shoes and tricked him into stepping into the shoes shortly afterwards |
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| Tiffany Haddish also has an experience with getting back at a cheating partner. (Vanity Fair)
That stinks, literally, but you really can’t
blame her, as many people have different reactions to being cheated on
and anyone who intentionally cheats and breaks the heart of someone they
claim to love doesn’t really deserve much pity.
Should you even be getting back at someone who cheats on you?
Well,
forgiveness is a great, advisable virtue but it'll be unwise and naive
to expect everyone to forgive, move on and just let things go. Hell no!
Not
every girl is just going to cry, throw few lame punches and walk away,
leaving a cheating, inconsiderate boyfriend or husband for God to judge.
For some people, the idea of letting things go
involves letting out steam in one crazy form or another, and if that
madness is directed at a partner who pushed them to those extremes, then
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| Some women just want to vent when they've been hurt. They won't just up and leave like that. (Tonga GH)
However, at
what point do we draw the line in these instances, and when can one be
said to have crossed the line of what’s acceptable as commensurate
retaliation when a partner cheats and makes you feel like a fool?
Obviously
criminal actions might have no justification here, and being moved to
commit a felony because of a partner's unfaithfulness will very likely
not excuse you from the punishments meted out by law.
Every other thing is pretty much open to debate.
In
the story referred to at the beginning of this article, the babe caught
her boyfriend cheating thrice and said nothing about it.
In fact she returned on one of those days to have sex with the guy. Then few months after, the guy proposed and she said yes.
They
had a traditional marriage and from all indications, a lavish wedding
ceremony, and still she said nothing until the marriage was signed and
sealed.
It then turned out that her body felt repulsed every time he initiated sex with her.
She
would later confess to why she did not consummate the marriage, but
that was only after pressure was mounted on her, months into the holy matrimony.
The
lady in question claims she wasn’t particularly out to get back at her
husband. Her hope had been that marriage to him would make it easy to
forgive and move past the whole issue without having to breathe a word
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| The woman in
this story thought the issue could be swept under the rug without
problems, but things didn't go quite as planned. (SayAll)
Reactions to
this story have majorly been to castigate the lady as being vindictive,
petty, wicked, horrible and other similar stuff and it’s really hard to
not see her in that light.
It is pretty
arguable that she served him a measure of disappointment mightily
disproportionate to the one he served her, and that she intended it all
all along.
But then, there really isn’t a
measurement for the amount of pain she’d have gone through, seeing him
sleep around and cheat serially the way he did.
There’s
also no way to measure the sadness and frustration she probably felt,
being unable to consummate the marriage and enjoy the pleasures of sex
like every other married woman. [Mind you, she was already exposed to
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| You can't determine how a partner reacts when they catch you cheating. Its their choice to forgive or not. (Madamenoire)
When you are tempted to call out the woman for fighting dirty, try to also wonder why the guy did her dirty.
Why didn’t he stay away from all those other girls when he decided to get serious with her?
It'd
be pleasant if everyone could stick with their partners and shun side
chicks and side guys but by all indications, this will probably never
happen.
So maybe it’s about time people began to prepare for the effects of cheating.
If you’re going to be that person who breaks trust and cheats on their partner, then be ready to face whatever comes out of it and you’re not permitted to cry foul when your pained partner pays you back in a heavier coin than yours.
You
can’t determine how your partner reacts or what they choose as payback
when they catch you cheating because when it comes to matters of the
heart, there aren’t rules guiding reciprocity.
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Some hurt women plot the most evil schemes when they've been cheated on (Shutterstock) It’s pointless at this stage to fixate on the commonness of cheating partners and the absurdity of the amount of effort and secrecy it takes to keep up that kind of life.
Cheating
is an unwanted reality which, unfortunately, can’t easily be cleansed
off the fabric of society, as highly desirable as that might be.
Just yesterday, we published a Twitter user’s story
detailing the catastrophe a man faced when his fiancée caught him
cheating and refused to say anything about it until months after their
marriage was sealed.
Reading the full story will give you a better insight into what really happened, and the conversations prompted by it.
Forgiveness and communication of feelings and emotions are obvious topics to be drawn out from there, of course.
But then, the story also makes one wonder: how do you deal with cheating partners?
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